I Am My Brother’s Keeper

November 27, 2010

Following on from the last post, the people around us express our disowned selves. This includes passersby and distant friends, acquaintances and relatives.

Our inner conflicts are expressed as polarities. If we have an internal division it is like pushing down on one side of a seesaw – the opposite polarity is bound by law to pop up nearby.

If someone comes into your life who is involved with drugs, violence, crime then it is a reflection of your interior condition. And changing them comes by changing yourself. That is to say: stop pushing down on the seesaw.

Without even knowing it, energetically we are always pushing people around – silently demanding our own way. So if we learn to stop this demanding and pushing then other people’s behaviour will change automatically. It is like dropping the rope in a tug of war.

But most of us don’t take this path. Instead we either push harder and demand more which just aggravates the situation, or we do enough to maintain our uncomfortable comfort zones.

Disowned selves also show us that we are responsible for the behaviour of other people. We should ask ourselves – how I am pushing this person? What demands do I have on them?

It may be that you are a perfectionist and thereby draw out imperfection from others. You may be demanding that spontaneity be suppressed, thereby inviting someone around you to express spontaneity in the proportion that you are suppressing it.

In a real-life example of self-harm by someone at the periphery of my life, I wonder why it came into my experience. I ask myself how I was subconsciously pushing this person? What expectations do I hold in my subconscious mind that I silently pressure her with? What in me wants to have this experience, even if it is distant? How do I benefit from this experience? How do I grow from this experience? What lessons are there for me?

As much as people rush to reject this way of looking at the world, we are all interconnected and play a part in creating other people’s behaviour.


From Prince of Tides by Pat Conroy

“He hated his mother. He married a woman totally different from his mother but through neglect, coldness and betrayal turned her into the exact image of his mother.”


Inside Out

November 27, 2010

Everyone in your world is a reflection of your inner condition. This means that every single person you encounter – no matter how briefly or distantly – is a response to a need that you carry within you.

If a passerby gives you a kind look – you are responsible. If another driver cuts you off – you are responsible. If a bus hits a pedestrian on the other side of the road – you are responsible.

Why are you responsible?

Because you create your own reality, in the same way that you create whole worlds in your dreams at night. The same consciousness that creates your dream worlds is creating this world.

Dreams are created according to the content of your subconscious mind. So if you are having nightmares, there is no point blaming anyone in the dream. Likewise with this world – there is no point in blaming anyone for your circumstances. Your soul is the creator of your circumstances and everything that you see.

Thus improving your circumstances is a matter of improving the contents of your subconscious mind and allowing your soul to express itself without obstruction. It means clearing out all the undigested past experiences that are haunting you and showing up in your life.

Purifying your subconscious mind is the domain of yoga and meditation. These practices lead to the ability to recognize and express harmony, balance and power in life.

Thus improving your subconscious mind is the best thing you can do to help the world and the people around you. The good karma (and energy) that comes from one person doing spiritual practices is shared by many.

Wisdom From The Bibles

November 13, 2010

For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? Matthew 16:26

I do not even see dualism in a crowd of people, so what do I gain if it is replaced by a desert? Ashtavakra Gita 2.21

When you realise your true nature as pure consciousness, nothing can be added or taken away from you because you are content in yourself. You are no longer a slave to the divisions of gain/loss, success/failure, life/death. You are indivisible, without parts to be in conflict, whole.

Of the elements, pure consciousness is most similar to space/ether. It has no boundaries. It does not move. It does not change and is not affected by time. Ether is not affected by the health of the body, a pocketbook, a jail cell or anything. It is eternally free. Imagine if you realised that your true nature is like ether.

Weapons cannot cleave him, nor fire burn him; water cannot wet him, nor wind dry him away. He is uncleavable; he cannot be burned; he cannot be wetted, nor yet can he be dried. He is eternal, all-pervading, stable, immovable, ever the same. Bhagavad Gita

The truth is that even ether comes and goes, but you do not. You are not dependent on anything. You are eternally free.

The happiness that we aspire to in the world is always transient – temporary – and destroyed by time. They are known as sorrowful joys. What is born will die. Grasping at moments and trying to extend them actually suffocates them.

Whosoever shall seek to save his life shall lose it. Luke 17:33

It is only by letting go of life does it flow fully.