If we perceive fire (strength, courage, certainty, etc) to be missing from our life then we put a high value on getting it. We think “I have too much water (weakness, passivity, uncertainty) and I need more fire.”
So we seek to increase fire and reduce water. We accept fire and reject water.
As we find fire we discover that it is very hot and burns, which causes us to crave water to cool us down. But we have a standing condition of rejecting water.
So we crave water (because it is cooling) and reject it (because it is weak) at the same time.
Likewise with fire, we crave it (because we think it is missing and we want to be whole) but we simultaneously reject it (because it is hot and burns).
In other words if we are afraid of failing, then we are also afraid of succeeding.
If we are afraid of being lonely, then we are also afraid of being in a relationship.
If we reject sadness, then we also reject happiness.
If we reject stupidity, then we also reject intelligence.
If we crave intelligence, then we also crave stupidity.
If you are afraid of making mistakes, then you won’t do anything.
If you are happy to make mistakes, then you will try anything.
If you are afraid of what people say, then you will say nothing.
If you are not afraid of what people say, then you will say too much.
If you overvalue yourself, then you undervalue others and you will live alone and have no friends.
If you overvalue others, then you undervalue yourself and you will always feel empty even in a crowd.
If you overvalue yourself, then you simultaneously undervalue yourself. Pride is fuelled by shame.
If you undervalue yourself, then you simultaneously overvalue yourself. Worthlessness is fuelled by conceit.
If you think you are a success, then expect failure to knock on your door.
If you think you are a failure, then you are undervaluing your successes.
If your life is boring, it is because you love boredom.
If you like stable and boring, unstable and exciting will reappear in your life in another form and you will be addicted to it.
If you crave variety and excitement, then stable and boring will haunt you and keep you running.
If we reject bad health, then we reject good health.
Bad health (eg vomiting) is actually the correct functioning of the body as it tries to seek balance. If we don’t see vomiting as a healthy function then we think health is missing and we seek it.
If we see vomiting as unhealthy then we have rejected health.
When we find “good” health we cling to it because we are afraid of “bad” health. Clinging and its accompanying fear are tiring burdens that are unhealthy. So when we get good health we get bad health.
The solution: see that nothing is missing. Fire, health, loneliness, water, happiness, joy never go away. They just change forms.
You’re not really happy until you don’t care if you’re happy or sad.
You’re not really healthy until you realise that heath comprises sickness and health.
You’re not really wealthy until you understand that you will always be rich and poor.
“Be content with what you have;
rejoice in the way things are.
When you realize there is nothing lacking,
the whole world belongs to you.”
― Lao Tzu